In a world of so many opinions, possibilities and ‘right’ ways to live, behave and advance along the path of growth and ‘success’, decision making can sometimes feel overwhelming. We’ve all been faced with choices – some seemingly ‘small’ and others that feel much more ‘important’ – should we say yes to that social engagement, do we speak out for what feels ‘right’ when there may be consequences or do we turn down that job that maybe doesn’t feel close to our heart but would say goodbye to any financial worries?
Life doesn’t always feel easy when we stand at our specific crossroads, especially in this day and age when possibilities seems vast and our vista has been blown wide open. For we have come to know that truly, anything is possible and the days when your life was mapped out for you (women take care of the home, men are the breadwinners, your far flung dreams should be kept in your head, you couldn’t possibly earn a living by doing the thing you love the most) is a thing of the past. People are doing all sorts of wonderful and outlandish things in their day to day lives that resonate with their hearts and bring in the financial rewards.
But, I am not just referring to those decisions that feel more fundamental, I am talking to the decisions that come right back to our minute by minute existence, our everyday evolution, where what we say, think and do in a moment can be defining in many ways – for our advancement as people, for our career paths, within our relationships and for our spiritual growth.
So, who do we trust? Who can point us in the right direction? Who is the authority on what is best and ‘right’ for us? These are not small questions but I have come to know one thing and know it well – the person who truly knows what’s right for you and for your highest good, stares at you every time you look in the mirror. The person who is best qualified to give you guidance, who has your best interests at heart and on whom you can trust, is you.
I am not saying that research is irrelevant and that all those who have gone before you have nothing to offer, that those who have chosen your desired career path do not have something of value to share and words of wisdom to impart, that there is no value in seeking advice from those you hold in high regard (or otherwise). Indeed, I am not so arrogant as to believe I have all the answers – on the contrary, I see that I could not have got to where I am in my life if I did not seek counsel and take guidance, but, I am suggesting that you know much more than you give yourself credit for and that ultimately, the end decision lies with you.
I think actually that this is where most of us have gone ‘wrong’ – by seeking for truth outside of ourselves and holding that opinion in higher regard than we ‘should’. I have spoken at length about faith and trust being commitments that need to be cultivated, internal muscles that need to be strengthened by ‘working’ them. So to, do we need to work our ability to listen internally, to the quiet whispers that reside inside that wish to point us in the direction that brings about our highest evolution. For we always know that ‘right’ thing (for us) to do… ALWAYS – we’ve just forgotten how to listen.
We were not all built the same. Yes, we are all human and for the most part have bodies that work in the same way, but WHO we are, what we love, what makes our heart sing, where we’re most ourselves (environment, interests, pastimes, the people we feel good around, the conversations that lift us up) differs greatly from person to person. One size does not fit all. We need to find the clothes that we feel comfortable in, that give us room to move, that make us feel good inside and I hope you see I use this clothes analogy for life – one person may love that woolly pullover whereas it may make another itch, another will enjoy pouring themselves into a size-too-small pair of jeans that hug the body, whereas another cannot stand the feeling of constriction this brings – it’s all choice and you are the only one who knows how you feel in your own choice of clothes. It’s personal. Someone can point you to the store but ultimately, you have to choose what you put on.
Get quiet. Sit with yourself. Listen to what your heart and body are telling you. What food does your body need today that feels nourishing? Who do you really wish to spend your sacred time with? What job makes you excited to get up for in the morning? Do you like the way you feel when you watch the news or is that re-run of Friends that makes you laugh out loud and lifts your heart more appealing? Do you think it’s serving to listen to that friend complain yet again about the same thing over and over again when what you really want to say is ‘I can’t do this anymore’? Is it an example of self love to continue dating that guy or girl you just can’t see yourself with just because you think you ‘should’? And a personal favourite of mine – going out to that noisy restaurant when every cell in your body is screaming at you to take some quiet time for yourself? Listen to your Self.
You know. You always know. It’s just that we’ve spent so many years saying yes when we really meant no. But it’s ok, anytime is the right time for change. Any moment in life is an opportunity to do things differently. You are your best friend and I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, life wants the best for you – always, in all ways. Life wants you to live a life that makes you happy from the inside out. You have an internal navigation system that is always desiring to take you on the best route, to the best destination. It will not give up. Life doesn’t get tired of helping you to course correct – if you take a ‘wrong’ turn, it will keep redirecting you. Our job – LISTEN.
So when I ask the question Who do You Trust? I really and truly hope that you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that it’s you.
To your evolution!
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